damn…
The cold makes you lonely. don't let it make you settle….
okay… so… I was going to just post this on Instagram in the feed, and maybe I’ll still do that, but for now… here’s a list…. originally a list of 22, but for now… this moment calls for 10….
….please protect the remainder of your year… understand that everything you choose to do now will set in place what 2027 will be….
Better choices when it comes to what you give your time and energy to will change your entire life and future….
Think about all the things you want in the next year and say no to anything that disrupts the flow of your desired future…
1. the cuffing season man
he shows up when the temperature drops and disappears when it warms up. you were never his person. you were his heater.
2. the holiday ghost
he texts you every day in october, vanishes the week of thanksgiving, and reappears january 2nd with “happy new year stranger.” he had plans. you just weren’t in them.
3. the 1am “you up?”
he only wants you when it’s dark, cold, and convenient. you deserve someone who wants you at noon, in daylight, in front of people.
4. the one who keeps you hidden
he’ll spend december wrapped up in you and january acting like you don’t exist. if he’s hiding you, he isn’t choosing you.
5. the seasonal ex
he comes back every winter like a cold you can’t shake. nothing about him has changed except the weather.
6. the potential
you keep loving the man he could be. don’t give another season to someone who never planned on becoming him.
7. the one who makes you anxious
if loving him means checking your phone every five minutes, that isn’t chemistry. that’s your body begging you to leave.
8. the grand gesture man
roses on your birthday, silence for three weeks after. a big moment is not the same as showing up.
9. the man who wants you to act like a wife just for a girlfriend title
you cook, you plan his family’s holidays, you hold him together, and he still won’t commit. you’re doing the labor of forever for a man who won’t even give you a name for it.
10. the one you’re thinking of right now
he came to mind before you reached this slide. you don’t need another sign. this was it.
In my 37 years of life, I’ve come to understand the power in either choosing the right partner or just saying fuck it, and accepting a life of being alone.
Alone is so much better than company that you have to survive….
Never forget that…. never forget how easier life can be when you are mindful of what and who you entertain….
If you’re still uncertain about this sort of thing and require more guidance…
The Red Flag Audit is necessary for you…
And if you want some reading material around spotting toxic behavior and potentially harmful relationships…. read “ the warning she never got “
And if you’re in a place…feeling stuck between the life you’ve lived and the live you’re dreaming of…. the full return to herself is necessary right now…
Have a beautiful and abundant day….
