Now, before you start bugging out about the number “ 100 “… remember, this is one of those things where you just take what you need, and I never said you needed all 100, but maybe you need to see the 100 to understand what you need lol… if that makes sense… I’m just messing with you.
I’m going to tell you something most men will never say out loud. I know men… I know exactly what a man is doing when he texts you at 1 a.m. and disappears by noon. I know what it looks like when he’s keeping you warm until someone “ better “ comes along. And I know the one thing he’s counting on above all else…. that you’ll explain it away before you ever walk away.
That’s the whole fucking game, and a man doesn’t need to be good at loving you. He just needs you to be good at excusing him.
I’ve watched it happen too many times… a beautiful, brilliant woman… shrinks herself down to fit inside the little space some man left open for her. She calls it patience… She calls it understanding.. She calls it “ he’s just going through a lot right now…” and he lets her because her softness is the only thing holding his bull shit together.
Here’s the fucking truth… red flags don’t show up waving… They show up smiling.. They show up as charm… as “ I’ve never felt this way before…” as a man who moves fast with his words and slow with his actions… He’s not confused.. he’s comfortable. There’s a fucking difference.
You were never too much… You were just too much for someone who wanted the least….
So I wrote this list… 100 of them… Some will make you laugh… someone will make you angry, and some will make you put your phone down and stare at the wall….because you’ll recognize him in it…maybe more than one version of him, and I love that because the path toward the love you deserve will require you to say no to anyone and anything that doesn’t align with what your heart requires in order to feel loved…
Read this shit slowly…. Screenshot the ones that sting and send it to the friend who keeps going back…
And remember this… the moment you can name it, he can’t use it on you anymore…
Keep in mind, a lot of this shit happens within the two months, which is wild AF… you’ll see what I mean once you begin…
The beginning (where he’s on his best behavior)
He moves too fast.“I’ve never felt this way” in week one isn’t love. It’s a sales pitch.**He talks about your future before he knows your middle name.**Big promises cost him nothing when he never planned to keep them.**He calls you his soulmate before he’s met your friends.**Real men build. Fake ones rush.**He love bombs, then disappears, then love bombs again.**That isn’t passion. That’s a training schedule.**His compliments are about your body, never your mind.**He’s telling you exactly what he came for.**He tells you every woman before you was crazy.**Give it a few months and you’ll be crazy too.**He overshares his trauma on the first date.**Sometimes it’s honesty. Sometimes it’s bait to make you his nurse.**He asks for your loyalty before he’s earned your trust.**Loyalty is a reward, not an entry fee.**He’s charming to you and rude to the waiter.**Pay attention to how he treats people he doesn’t need.**He seems too perfect.**Nobody is perfect. Some men are just good at auditions.
His phone and his texting
