Damn, I literally forgot to share this earlier and so… I hope you forgive me for arriving so damn late…
You can’t call it a breakup because you were never together…..
But you’re grieving like you were. That’s the cruelty of it. All the pain of losing someone, and none of the permission to hurt, because technically nothing happened. Technically, it was casual. Technically….you knew what it was.
Except you didn’t. You told yourself you were fine with undefined, and then you spent every day trying to earn the definition.
Here’s the truth… a situationship isn’t a relationship that hasn’t started yet. It’s a relationship someone is refusing to give you while keeping just enough of you to stay.
The lie is… if I’m patient enough, they’ll finally choose me.
But someone who wanted to choose you would have. The waiting isn’t the path to the relationship. The waiting is the relationship. That’s the whole arrangement… you provide the devotion, they provide the maybe.
THE SOLUTION…
Stop trying to get clarity from someone who benefits from keeping you confused.
You already have your answer. It’s in how you feel at 11pm when they still haven’t texted. It’s in how you shrink every time you almost ask for more.
So this week, ask yourself the only question that matters…
If it stayed exactly like this forever, would I be okay?
You already know. You’ve known for a while.
Maybe the Sunday Solution is this…
I’d rather be alone with the truth than half-chosen by someone who won’t say the word.
Undefined was never the problem. The problem was hoping the person keeping it undefined would suddenly want to define it.
They won’t. And you were never asking for too much. You were just asking the wrong person.
And if you’re still trying to figure out where you actually are in it…
I made The Situationship Timeline for that. Six phases decoded, from the first spark to the last excuse, so you can finally see where you are and where it’s headed. Plus a 4-step exit plan to actually leave and stay gone. It’s $3 and you can read it tonight.
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