Okay, I’ve written about this in the past…. I’ll share the ones from the past as we get into this latest expression… I woke up this morning with some new insight but also wanted to share with you how TF we got here….
Okay… now, to today’s thought….
Let’s be honest about why your dating life is shit. It’s not bad luck. It’s not that all the good ones are taken. It’s your approach. You’re dating aggressively, forcing it, treating connection like a quota you have to hit by Friday, and here’s the whole fucking thing… nobody tells you… Force never works. Not in dating, not in anything. When you chase from a place of lack, lack is exactly what shows up. Empty energy attracts empty people. You’re not manifesting love; you’re manifesting more of the void you’re trying to fill.
Then there’s the battlefield you’ve chosen. The modern nightclub isn’t romance; it’s a watering hole in the jungle. It was built for the hunt, designed entirely around the male gaze, and I use this example because it’s a place that pulled so many people in, and it made so many individuals grow accustomed to wasting their time and energy on people and moments that would otherwise set you off course for the companionship and love you’d want later on. And the dating apps… same fucking blueprint.. with better lighting. Most men aren’t on there looking for their person… They’re hunting… That’s not cynicism; that’s just the terrain you keep walking into blind.
Literally, the same men you reject, avoid, and wish won’t talk to you when you’re running errands are the same men who somehow get your attention later on because they’re wearing the disgust of a profile on a dating app or sitting beneath the shade of terrible lighting at a club, concert, or evening social gathering.
The fix isn’t trying harder…It’s trying less. Decenter dating… build standards so high they filter the clowns out automatically. Hold back…. HAVE BOUNDARIES that actually mean something. Because the woman who isn’t desperate to be chosen is the one who finally gets to choose. Stop forcing that shit and start filtering.
You don’t find love by actively dating. You find love by holding your healing and self-love at the center and core of your everyday life.
For the women who are currently on a healing journey but want that healing to proactively set them on a path that makes it easier to manifest their heart’s desire…
I want to suggest “ THE FULL RETURN TO YOURSELF…”
And for the woman who is genuinely ready for a loving relationship, a soft life and love, a partner who aligns with everything she deserves and requires..
I suggest “FREQUENCY, " a year-long journey, guided by not only my words but your own words as well. Frequency is for the woman who is finally prepared to meet a long and lasting love.
First comes the awareness, then the healing, then the love you require.
These two things, done in order, will bring you the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE without putting yourself into situations and environments that could ruin your path toward everything you deserve.
Most women dating from lack don’t know they’re doing it. It doesn’t feel like desperation. It feels like being open, giving chances, being a good woman who keeps picking the wrong men, but lack is sneak AF, and it hides in how you check your phone and every “ he’s just busy “ you say with a straight face…..
So here are 50 signs you’re dating from emptiness; some will make you laugh… some will make you uncomfortable… at least one will read you so precisely you’ll want to throw your damn phone…
Don’t do that lol…but you can’t fix a pattern you refuse to see…. I HOPE THIS OPENS YOUR EYES….
