You take a hot shower. Ten minutes later you’re lying on your bed, heart pounding, brain low-key full of static, and the day you had planned is gone. Cognitively offline and irritable in a way that feels disproportionate to a shower.
Or it’s not a shower. It’s July and you walk from an air-conditioned building to your car, and by the time you’re at your desk twenty minutes later, you can’t hold a thought together. Ten minutes in a parking lot, and you’re useless for the afternoon.
If you’ve never experienced either of these, it probably sounds absurd. A shower is self-care. A walk to your car is nothing.
If you have experienced this, you already scrolled down looking for the explanation, because you’ve spent years being told this reaction doesn’t make sense. By doctors, partners, and yourself.
I’ve heard some version of this from clients for years, usually delivered apologetically, like a confession. “This is going to sound crazy, but showering is the most tiring part of my day.” It doesn’t sound crazy. It sounds like a body giving an accurate report that nobody trained us to read.
Standard Explanations Are All Slightly Off
Ask around and you’ll get some version of these:
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