There’s a sentence I hear in my office almost every week, in some form or another.
“I was having a really good day. And then I overdid it.”
The people who say it to me are high-capacity, neurocomplex adults. Many are AuDHD, gifted, or both. They run teams, raise kids, build businesses, care for aging parents. And they are tired in a way that sleep doesn’t touch.
The story usually goes like this. The fog lifts. They can think again. The task they’ve been circling for three weeks suddenly looks doable. So they do what any reasonable person would do after weeks of drowning: they catch up on everything. The emails they were ashamed to open. The appointment. The kitchen. The draft. The apology text with a paragraph of explanation. Maybe they start something new, because finally, they feel like themselves.
Two days later they can’t get out of bed. The list has refilled. The fog is back, thicker than before. And by the time they’re sitting across from me, the crash has already delivered its verdict: something must be wrong with them.
I’ve started calling this the catch-up crash. You spend a good day like a paycheck after months of debt, and by the end of the week you’re broke again, plus interest.
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